To what extent is social media’s promise of engagement a myth?
Earlier today I read this comment on Twitter from the recognised and highly regarded, including by myself, Twitter expert, @markshaw.

Mark believes strongly in the power of Twitter. I join him in that. But his apparent belief that he should expect a response from @nickclegg is misplaced and I think inappropriate.
Social Media Etiquette
Mark’s cajoling, even challenge, to Nick Clegg to communicate with him, to reply, is inappropriate. If Nick and Mark (forgive the familiarity of first names) were present in the same room, at a networking event, then such a demand for a response would be wildly out of place.
You would wait your turn, probably wait for an opportunity to feed into an existing conversation or wait for a quiet discrete moment.
The Force Response – Is an answer required?
I replied to Mark that the “force response”, to me, is the domain of the email. People expect responses to email, and quickly too.
One of the joys of Twiter, to me, is that I choose to go to my twitter stream and dip in and out of the conversation as I choose. Sometimes I broadcast, sometimes I respond, sometimes I engage in a conversation.
I opt in, or out. Twitter puts me in control.
The only time I feel I am expected to respond is if addresed by direct or an @ message.
The Illusion of Engagement
But, for the individual reading any given tweet, the perception that they are engaged in a conversation or relationship is nothing but a powerful illusion.
This has bearings for us as all as we continue to use this medium personally and commercially.
Expectation
I myself became frustrated last year when I tweeted about some truly awful customer service from Tescos. I live tweeted about the service and expected some response from Tescos. Nothing and I had to go through email and telephone instead.
Is it right that we expect to be heard and acknowledged within social media?
Perhaps we should expect organisations to be responsive. Would I expect the Lib/Dem machine to get in touch with Mark? I think I would.
Should it be a personalised answer from Nick Clegg. No, surely not. If he gets it then that’s very nice. It will give Mark a great anecdote to share in his excellent Twitter training sessions and might boost Nick’s credibility within Mark’s contact spheres, but it is not necessary.
Aggression Detering Engagement
Finally I cannot resist pulling on my conflict communications hat. There is something quite aggressive about Mark’s challenge to Nick. (I really wish I hadn’t gone with first names). I’m sure Mark didn’t mean it to.
I think the problem is in the opening “If…”
It almost reads as if to say, “Oh yeah Nick? If you are so prepared to listen and engage, come on out here…”
So again, note to self, be aware of how we might be coming across…
What Do You Think?
What are your thoughts?
Making Stupid Comments Online
I was kindly referred to as a lawyer “doing great things with social media” in a blog post today. Just to prove that flattery gets you everywhere, I’ll gladly link through to Bryony Thomas’ Clear Thought consultancy blog about managing negative feedback. Click the image below.
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I was greatly disheartened yesterday by a stupid comment made on a discussion I was having in a LinkedIn group.
I was happy to leave the comment online rather than fan his flames. It was only his reputation that was going up in smoke after all.
I figured that a fellow lawyer who had got as far as finding his way into LinkedIn groups might just ”get it” regarding social media.
What might he have got?
Unfortunately, my companion in that discussion was saved from eternal embarrassment by the LinkedIn group moderator removing the comment.
So, Mr I-Do-Not-Get-It, if you are reading this, I would like to thank you. I have got several training sessions coming up exploring how we lawyers can use social media effectively and responsibly, in a way which is in keeping with our professional ethics and responsibilities – your bizarre outburst will provide an excellent case study.
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